Embracing gender differences

From the time when humans evolved from monkeys/were put onto the Earth by God(we can never figure out which is true; anyways somehow we came to exist), we have had an inner instinct which set apart the two genders, proving that men and women do not think alike.

1. It is observed that boys worship their fathers and girls grow closer to their mothers, each identifying with their own gender.

2. As they grow older, boys don’t like to be hugged and kissed. They avoid public display of affection. Girls like to be hugged, kissed and are more receptive to public display of affection.

3. Boys play with toys which are a means of competition like cars, bikes, etc. Girls are more inclined towards toys promoting teamwork ie,dolls, playing with cooking set, etc.

4. When they grow into adults, men feel the need to protect while women feel the need to nurture.

5. A man reading a novel, totally engrossed in it, is a rare sight. Probably the eight wonder of the world! It wouldn’t come as a surprise if in his hand was his smartphone with a porn site loading.

6. A man’s job ends with helping his wife conceive.

7. Men feel it uncool to believe in zodiac signs. Women readily succumb to anything which can tell them more about themselves.

8. Men don’t like to read romantic novels. But will definitely like to watch a romantic movie with his gf!

9. When men say ‘I’m thinking about nothing’, believe them.

10. Men will only do what they think is right. So you should perhaps quit telling him to throw wet towels on the bed.

11. A man just cannot block a woman, unless there’s another woman in his life.

12. Men never stop trying, even after marriage.

13. Men will attribute a woman’s denial to the ‘mood swing days before chums’.

14. Men can find their way to a restaurant on a strange island. Women can get themselves off a strange island and make their way to a 50% discount sale.

15. Men make ogling obvious by moving their heads up and down. Women can ogle by keeping their heads fixed as a statue.

16. Men will show love by doing things for women. Some of them won’t express it in words.

17. After a busy day, men refresh themselves by reading or watching on TV others’ problems. Women refresh themselves by bitching about other women.

So, we see that bringing humour into our gender differences and taking things on a lighter note will helpbto ease arguments and will help men and women live cooperatively under one roof.

Note: if some of the things mentioned above are different in reality with regard to a particular person, regard the person as an exception and rejoice!

One Indian Girl- review and my thoughts

Radhika weds Brijesh. Mehta family weds Gulati family.A grand destination wedding in Goa Marriot. 

One Indian Girl authored by Chetan Bhagat illustrates a typical Punjabi wedding with a mom’s gender stereotypes, a bit of family drama, ex lovers, a woman’s corporate career and feminism thrown in. 

Radhika is an introvert who has always been good at academics and poor at charming people. Her sister is totally the opposite. Compare a nerd and a stripper. She joins IIMA, bags a job at Goldman Sachs and shifts to New York. 

Once in New York, she gets into a live-in relationship with Debashish Sen(Debu). Meanwhile, her salary goes on increasing and Debu still earns a tenth of what she earns. His male ego cannot tolerate this. His idea of a future wife is a woman who stays at home and looks after his kids. Radhika argues that she can manage both work and home but Debu remains unconvinced. He leaves her life unexpectedly. When Radhika goes to his apartment to make amends, she catches him in bed with a white-skinned girl. 

Radhika applies for a transfer to the bank’s Hong Kong office to get away from Debu and her memories of him. In Hong Kong, she gets involved in an affair with a senior at office, Neel Gupta, twenty years older to her, married and having two kids. At this point in the story, it’s revealed that Radhika’s sun sign is Gemini. 

All’s well between both of them but when Neel makes a statement that he could never imagine her as a mother, Radhika is hurt. There she goes again with her second heartbreak. 

She gets a second transfer to London to get away from Neel. Her mom has been constantly pestering her to get married and so she comes to London to help her daughter search for prospective grooms. After going through numerous profiles and rejecting all of them, she finally selects a Punjabi guy working with Facebook in San Francisco, USA. She talks to him on Skype and their marriage gets fixed. 

Radhika finances her own wedding and flies down to Goa to have a grand destination wedding. Debu and Neel follow her to Goa,apologising for their folly in letting her go and propose to her. 

Radhika is in a fix. Debu is her first love but full of ego and earns less than her. Neel is rich, divorced, handsome but made her feel inferior. She hardly knows Brijesh, dislikes his name and feels rushed into an arranged marriage. 

Finally, she decides, ‘I want to marry noone right now. I want to travel around the world.’ She asserts:’ Why do women have to choose between home and career when men don’t have to choose between career and sex?’

Still on her journey, she goes to San Francisco and meets Brijesh who looks fitter now. They get along quite well. Did she marry him? Or did she get attracted to another guy? All left to you.. jo bhi aap sochna chahe..

Some important conclusions: Gemini women climb up the corporate ladder faster due to their convincing power. They are charming and irresistable. May get attracted to financially stable older men. Have an opinion of their own. Are two faced meaning may exhibit extreme tendencies. Move on in life very quickly after a break-up. Always believe that if not this fish, then another fish(billions of good guys in this world). Quick to find faults and criticise. People realise her worth after she’s gone and there’s no use crying over spilt milk. Loves travelling.